ORIGINALLY POSTED IN 2012 ON focusonsimple.co
After some recent introspection and reflection I’ve come to the conclusion that really taking ownership of my life may not be one of my strong suits. I’ve always tried to make what might be considered the ‘right’ decision by others. What my parents, family, friends, + even employers, would approve of.
Well…that’s not right.
+, truthfully, it hasn’t worked out in my best interests. My life is great, + I’ve always tried to stay thankful, + have been very blessed. But there have been a few missteps which have seemed like huge set-backs or hiccups. I know this happens to everyone. I’ve most definitely fallen victim to self-victimizing…”why me?” “I’m a good person, doesn’t that count for something…isn’t that enough?”…+ I’ve also definitely suffered from the “not as good/successful/thin/fill-in-the-blank as…”
However, each of those major hiccups have occurred because of circumstances I let happen. I didn’t say “no” when I should have. I wasn’t pro-active in making the change I needed. I let things happen with the belief that things happen for a reason + will work out for the best.
Life does “just happen”. But if you live with intention, + take ownership of your life + decisions, I really believe magical things will happen. Magical things are happening. + this voracious magnet of ownership will only draw more magic to you.
After going through the process of writing the previous post on what is reasonable it seems like there are a few things clicking into place.
It’s less…waiting for the life I want to happen + making the best of my current situation…+ more claiming my current situation as the life I want to live.
I’ve grown up believing + strongly feeling our connectedness. + it strongly evoked a sense of cognitive dissidence to think about making decisions based solely on my own self-interest…or picking my own self-interests over what is best for the ‘collective whole’ – whosoever that might include.
But it’s probably more possible to do good things with my life when I’m living it for me, than to feel saddled with…indebtedness – all the time.